Sitting from my perspective, it was an all-you-can-eat (no pun intended) buffet of straight-up sexual pleasure. (The environment lends itself to all manners of sexy - at all times.) Consent was a constant, and in my experience, swingers are mindful of boundaries (although maybe not to the same degree as the kink community, but I’ll save those observations for another day). I felt safe at every turn, even when there was alcohol and sexed-up endorphins involved. People made their intentions clear, but never pressured me to play.

Friends who were sexual, but respectful, flirty and fun. At Hedonism, it meant I had an automatic network of friends. Sex aside, I like the (generally) sex-positive attention that being a unicorn attracts. Cue the almighty mythical unicorn status. The answer is pretty simple: I like sex, and although I have a partner who adores and satisfies me, my interests are vast and I seek variety in experiences.

Not everyone wanted to have sex with me, but they sure were curious as to why a seemingly nice woman was at a nudist resort by herself. (I’ll leave it at that and let your imagination run cray cray.)Īs a single female, albeit one in an ethically non-monogamous relationship, I garnered an uptick of attention from men, women and couples that I wouldn’t normally receive on a solo girl’s getaway. For some, it may be as mild as watching couples on the clothing optional side of the resort. It’s a tropical paradise where anything goes - however you choose to define it. I tend to live in a “make your own fun” mindset, but Hedonism is adult fun on steroids. I recently had the full-tilt unicorn experience at Hedonism, the granddaddy of nudist resorts, in Negril, Jamaica. More: What to do when one partner wants an open marriage That attention only begets more sexual energy from ever-grateful me. In my experience, swingers are eager to make their unicorns happy and take a team approach to pleasure. Yet you’re never an afterthought – your extra set of hands, boobs, mouth and ass are highly sought after by couples.

I’ve embraced being a third, a relationship novelty. I know many monogamists that insist upon being the center of sexual attention - always - but as a unicorn, that focus often inadvertently sways in my favor with little to no effort. But, as an adult, I’ve completely embraced my role as a unicorn, aka the hard-to-find female DTF in the world of swingers and open relationships.

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